Thursday, January 23, 2014

Making a Living or Making a Life

2014 has begun, and the Year of the Wood Horse is set to begin. Some of my friends choose a specific word-of-focus for the year as an alternative to New Years Resolutions. Choosing a word for the year requires being present, meditative, and some of the words like Diligence or Integrity are year-long lessons. But as soon as I saw this MLK quote, I knew this was my message.
It's six words, has dichotomy, polarity, and curiosity. It applies well to my grammy-nanny time in conjunction with my new published author status. My knees and feet are an issue for me right now and knees and feet are the "wheel base" of my body for my life.
I was carrying my granddaughter, and stepping over a dog, to answer my phone when I felt the "twang" in my knees. I've had knee and foot issues since an illness in childhood. My willingness to try a variety wraps, diets, exercises, and herbal remedies to avoid drugs, as pills get caught in my throat, means that I'm in good shape and rather flexible for someone my age.
Wheelchairs were cool to me - in my childhood. Grandma (arthritis), my mom (polio), and my cousin Billy (Spina  Bifida) all used wheelchairs when not in bed. Grandma's was the standard kind, mom's was a power chair, and Billy's was a sporty style and he could personally store it behind the drivers seat of his modified two-door sport car (was it a Camero or a Firebird?) and go off to the pool halls where his nick-name was "Wheels." This all means I wasn't overly traumatized at a diagnosis that I would probably be in a wheelchair by my 20's.
The reason why that didn't happen, according to one doctor, is because I was pregnant during my 20's. No joke. My first daughter was born in March of 1981 and my fourth in July of 1989, less than six weeks after my 30th birthday. Supposedly it was hormones that helped my joints and bones as I couldn't take pre-natal vitamins because they had too much iron, in addition to my swallowing pills issue.
These are our four daughters now,
at the baby shower for our 4th grandchild.
I get the difference between making a life and making a living as referenced by Dr. King in the above quote. His "I Have A Dream" speech was on August 28th, 1963. The entirety of his message still needs to be realized at a global level but that will only begin when many make it a personal message. Making a life requires flexibility, dexterity, and most of all... Balance! Especially when holding a five month old granddaughter.
I have elastic knee braces and am wearing them now. I'm aware of what could sabotage me having a passionate life. The energy of 2014 is Male Wood Horse - galloping with enthusiasm - while not becoming a stampede or breaking a leg in a gopher hole.
The time spent to nurture the self (and body) must balance with time spent nurturing our relationships, careers, hobbies, and any vehicle no matter how classic. I'm really passionate about snuggling babies, and being a leader from behind for grand-babies under the age of three. To do so means, I must take care of me. Otherwise, I'd not be able to help push a wheelchair or a stroller. 

I've been reminded to be grateful that when I wake in the morning I can roll out of bed, stand up, and walk.

Sunday, August 18, 2013

News for 2013

We have a new granddaughter. And she's Awesome!

Kaedance Grace was born on July 29, 2013

My first Contemporary Romance novel Checkmate First Mate will be released in digital format in September 2013.

The Author Marketing 101 Guide and Journal that I've co-written with C. Morgan Kennedy will be available by October 2013.

Ed and I just returned from a vacation in Newport, Oregon, with our two grandsons, aged ten and four. Fun but exhausting!

For more excuses as to why I haven't given any attention to this website or completing this memoir - there's plenty to read over at Terri Patrick's Blog. There was also an Oops or two regarding my new business cards and I had to add my email address to all 1,000 cards - as I shared with my fellow Soul Mate Authors.

The journey to write this memoir - which I expect to complete and publish someday - has been a catalyst for all kinds of amazing opportunities. It's as if my parents want me to be very aware that I am more than just their daughter, and that's why their story will have value.

Thursday, January 10, 2013


Our youngest daughter got married on 12-1-12. Ed and I danced a lot that night, and not just with our 4-year-old grandson. It was a wonderful celebration and this picture represents more than a fun party.

When this grandson was born, Ed was still in chronic pain from a lower back injury sustained in a car accident years earlier. Standing and walking were limited activities and there wasn't much hope of improvement. He was adamant in his acceptance to grin-and-bear it. But that's changed and Ed and I even took ballroom dancing classes in preparation for this fun event. So when I look at this picture I also see that miracles do happen, we just might not notice during the business of living life.

This picture represents huge changes in the dynamics of our family in only four years, since the birth of our second grandson, including two weddings and a funeral. It was because of, and during, these big changes that the return of Ed's ability to dance again occurred. There was no transformative surgery or magical wand. There were changes to daily routines, diets and activities, because our daughters were buying homes, getting married, needing grandparents to babysit, and small shifts in the requirements of our careers. I also made one of Ed's life long dreams come true. It wasn't a big deal for me, but he wouldn't have it, if I didn't make it happen. Being married means being invested in the happiness and dreams of your partner. And Ed will always be my best dancing partner.

I saw this picture for the first time, today. It sparked a kaleidoscope of images and memories. I've always believed in keeping the faith in the power of a happy agenda. That's probably why good things happen in my life. They may take some time, but four years is pretty quick for a miracle this big.